We all know that life is not a bed of roses. Just as in marriage,
life is never perfect. Common marriage problems arise anytime at any
moment. Although on the first stage of married life, life for the couple
seems to be perfect and without flaws at all but as marriage grows
deeper, this is the best time to see the real being of the person. Their
personality, attitudes, temper, habits and lifestyle will no longer be a
secret but will become a part of the acceptance to married life. On the
other hand, as time goes by, we change for the better in the
relationship and unconsciously change as well even at the worst times.
We become immature, impatient and selfish realizing that there's a
certain form of negativity that needs to be solved.
If we are asked to enumerate all the common marriage problems experienced by both husband and wife, then we can compile a book to do it. The problems can be as numerous as the people living in the world. This is so common to married life since two different people with different interest and personalities come together to live as one. Here are some problems:
1. Communication Problem. Misunderstanding is the very common cause of argument in marriage. One doesn't clearly understand the thoughts he's been telling to his partner and vice versa. Each has his own thoughts and views; sometimes the need to understand is rejected as they do not want to entertain other's idea.
2. In-laws Problem. There are couples who still stay on the house of the parents of either the husband or wife after marriage while saving up money in building their own home. It is actually the most known and common problem because parents can be so supportive to the point of interfering with their own lives. This also very apparent when they have already a grandchild living with them. They act like parents too and the couple feels like they cannot decide independently especially when parents scold them of not taking good care of their child. There are also parents who do not care at all. They do not talk often and care less with the new family.
3. Financial Problem. This is also very common because there are couples who tied their knot and have not prepared enough because they were forced by such circumstance (pregnancy). Problems in food for their daily supplies to eat, milk, diapers and vaccination for the baby, etc. are just few of the reasons why conflict happens.
4. Priorities. There are couples that work 24 hours/day and 7 days a week without spending much time for the children and to each other. Stress from work that makes them forget that they have a husband or wife and children to spend quality time with. Lost of time to reconnect can cause damage to the married life.
5. Sex Problem. Stress from work, lack of time and less communication can contribute to loss of interest in having sexual connection together. Inability to catch a perfect time is also a factor. Meaning, when the husband is energized enough and eager to have sex, while the wife is tired from work and choose to sleep instead. This will lessen the interest of the partner causing problem with marriage.
All these common marriage problems experienced by couples as husband and wife are fine, healthy, normal and natural. Despite that, they can actually complement each other and learning what should be disregarded and corrected. However, at the end of the day, they should all realize that the most important and essential things that are of help to hold a marriage together are common values, common vision, and common passions. If in your life as couple, it is still not working, work on them. Having all of these gives more sweetness to the relationship, allowing more quality time to be together.
If we are asked to enumerate all the common marriage problems experienced by both husband and wife, then we can compile a book to do it. The problems can be as numerous as the people living in the world. This is so common to married life since two different people with different interest and personalities come together to live as one. Here are some problems:
1. Communication Problem. Misunderstanding is the very common cause of argument in marriage. One doesn't clearly understand the thoughts he's been telling to his partner and vice versa. Each has his own thoughts and views; sometimes the need to understand is rejected as they do not want to entertain other's idea.
2. In-laws Problem. There are couples who still stay on the house of the parents of either the husband or wife after marriage while saving up money in building their own home. It is actually the most known and common problem because parents can be so supportive to the point of interfering with their own lives. This also very apparent when they have already a grandchild living with them. They act like parents too and the couple feels like they cannot decide independently especially when parents scold them of not taking good care of their child. There are also parents who do not care at all. They do not talk often and care less with the new family.
3. Financial Problem. This is also very common because there are couples who tied their knot and have not prepared enough because they were forced by such circumstance (pregnancy). Problems in food for their daily supplies to eat, milk, diapers and vaccination for the baby, etc. are just few of the reasons why conflict happens.
4. Priorities. There are couples that work 24 hours/day and 7 days a week without spending much time for the children and to each other. Stress from work that makes them forget that they have a husband or wife and children to spend quality time with. Lost of time to reconnect can cause damage to the married life.
5. Sex Problem. Stress from work, lack of time and less communication can contribute to loss of interest in having sexual connection together. Inability to catch a perfect time is also a factor. Meaning, when the husband is energized enough and eager to have sex, while the wife is tired from work and choose to sleep instead. This will lessen the interest of the partner causing problem with marriage.
All these common marriage problems experienced by couples as husband and wife are fine, healthy, normal and natural. Despite that, they can actually complement each other and learning what should be disregarded and corrected. However, at the end of the day, they should all realize that the most important and essential things that are of help to hold a marriage together are common values, common vision, and common passions. If in your life as couple, it is still not working, work on them. Having all of these gives more sweetness to the relationship, allowing more quality time to be together.
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